Self-Talk

This is not going to be a blog about positive affirmations and how you should say something like "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn-it people like me," so relax. This is about something much more subtle and practical than that. What I'm going to talk about is that little voice in your head that comes from your thoughts.

All day, every day, you talk to yourself. Now obviously I don't mean that you talk to yourself aloud all day, I mean your thoughts and what you "say" to yourself in your thoughts. Think about it, what do you say to yourself throughout the day on a normal day? What do you say when you first wake up? Is it something like "I really don't want to go to work today," or something like "I can't wait to get started on ____ today," or something else? What do you say to yourself when your plans get ruined and there's nothing you can do about it? Do you get frustrated and mad at the world? Or do you see it as an opportunity to come up with a better plan? What do you say to yourself when you make a mistake? Do you call yourself stupid, or tell yourself that now you know what not to do in that situation in the future and now you're smarter than before?

How you talk to yourself has a large impact on your self-esteem, especially since the person you communicate with the most every single day is yourself. Since that's the case, shouldn't you make sure you are having good conversations with yourself? Start paying attention to how you talk to yourself every day... If you notice that you talk to yourself in a negative way, STOP IT! Make an effort to talk to yourself in a more positive, optimistic, productive way - it makes a huge difference in how you feel about yourself regarding your confidence, self-worth, and overall self-esteem.